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MindBridge NLP Coach Certification Training

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  1. 1 - Introduction to NLP and Professional Life Coaching
    8 Topics
  2. 2 - Fundamentals of Influential Communication
    5 Topics
  3. 3 - Characteristics of Excellence in Communication
    2 Topics
  4. 4 - a. Identifying Thinking Styles
    1 Topic
    1 Quiz
  5. 4 - b. Rapport
  6. 5 - a. Values Clarification
  7. 5 - b. Submodalities
  8. 6 - a. Anchoring Techniques
    2 Topics
  9. Managers as Coaches
  10. 7 - Clarifying Communication
    5 Topics
  11. 7 - a. Power of Questions
  12. 7 - b. Intake- Initial Pre-Coach Session
  13. 8 - Criteria
    3 Topics
  14. 8 - a. Perceptual Flexibility - Perceptual Position Quiz
    3 Topics
  15. 8 - b Well Formed Outcomes
    3 Topics
  16. 9 - 3 NLP Techniques Demonstrations
  17. 10 - Identifying Mind Maps
  18. 10- a. Meta Program Psychometric Quizzes
  19. 10 - b. Key Meta Program Patterns Explained
    7 Topics
  20. 10 - c. NLP Coach Session Demonstration
  21. 10 - d. Evaluation Forms -Outcome Coach Session
  22. 10 - e. Evaluation Video of NLP Coaching Demonstration
  23. 11 - NLP Coaching Sessions
    2 Topics
  24. 11 - a. Evaluation of Demo - Categories of Experience
  25. 11 - b. Directionalizing the Session
  26. 12 - Insights and Just for the fun of it!
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Stepping Back to Gain New Perspectives. (see the first paragraph below before watching so that you know the situation being addresses.

The video above is a demonstration of taking a client through the Gaining a New Perspective technique. The client is using the example (volume is soft when she explains the situation so I will summarize it): Her son, when playing certain games on the computer or iphone, buys gaming products on her credit card, even after they have had many conversations telling him not to make those charges. *(Note: It is not for you to come up with the many suggestions you can think of or give advice to ‘fix’ the problem for her).

Gaining a New Perspective

Learn to take a step back and look at the bigger picture, there is so much more to see. Have you ever tried to take a picture of a group of people and realized that the people at the fringes of the group weren’t in the frame? What did you do? You took a step back!

What did that do for you, for your picture? For one, it changed your perspective. It allowed you to get the full picture of things, it allowed you to SEE more. Secondly, by broadening your plan of view, it gives you more of the story. And when you have more of the story you can make better decisions.

Life can be trying. Trials happen. Your day-to-day can be turbulent. But, if you learn to slow it down, step back, and really look at the whole picture you become better equipped to handle all the life throws at you.

Many times we’re so close to the problem that we can’t see the world around it. We can’t see anything but the problem that’s standing right in front of us and it’s blocking our view. Work to gain a better vantage point and stop allowing the problem to color the world around you.

Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” — Marcus Aurelius

It’s all a matter of perspective.

How often have you heard that? But do you really get that it’s all, I mean ALL, a matter of perspective? And that, if you want to create health, wealth and happiness in your life, being able to change your perspective is one of the most powerful tools you can possess?

Here are some simple ways to activate that powerful tool.

1. What you see is not the truth, not reality. What we see is based on a number of things: our beliefs, our experience, even our blood sugar level or the mood we happen to be in. Something happens and we all create our own “spin” on it. If you stick seven people in a room to watch The Matrix, they’ll end up with 7 totally different explanations and interpretations of the plot and characters. Siblings within a family will ‘remember’ the very same incidents quite differently.

2. Events or circumstances are not good or bad, they’re neutral. It’s our perspective and how we interpret those things that makes them positive or negative. Take winter: some people love to roll around in the snow and others hate the cold. But winter itself isn’t good or bad. Even something as “bad” as smoking cigarettes can be ‘good.’ For example, there are studies out there that say long term smokers are more immune from some neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s!

3. It’s our interpretations that shape our responses to life and our futures. Circumstances and events don’t shape us. We’re shaped by the meaning or spin we give to those circumstances and events. One adopted child may feel special and particularly loved because she was ‘chosen’ by her parents. Another may focus on feeling abandoned by her biological parents. Their different interpretations will lead to completely different responses to life.

“The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don’t have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it.” — Chris Pine

4. We have the ability to change the meaning we’ve given to an event. We can’t always change what happens to us but we can change how we think and feel about it. In Neuro Linguistic programming, NLP, we call this ‘reframing.’ Many of us reframe our experiences naturally, for example, finding the humor in an awkward encounter or finding the silver lining in a tough situation.

5. When we adopt more empowering interpretations we’re able to act more powerfully and respond more positively to life. Imagine the dad of a rebellious teenager. If he interprets his child’s actions as disrespectful, self-centered and maybe the result of his own poor parenting, communication will likely be tense and non-productive. But if he recognizes rebellion as his child’s misguided attempt to become more independent and self-sufficient, communication can stay open and positive– even while the kid is getting grounded!

In NLP trainings, we teach students a variety of specific techniques to reframe the meanings they’ve given to events, especially interpretations given to past events that now block their growth and sabotage their ability to achieve what they desire. Through reframing, they remove the barriers of old, rigid perceptions, gaining flexibility and choice in how they can act and respond going forward.

You can practice a version of reframing using the following simple steps:

Step one is to become aware of your perspective and ask the question, “Does this perspective serve me and who I’m becoming?”

For example, it might seem reasonable to blame your financial situation on a rotten economy and those Wall Street manipulators, but does that perspective really empower you to get where you want to go? You might be able to ‘prove’ that your ex took advantage of you and treated you poorly, but will that help you create a more positive relationship the next time around? Keep in mind that your perspective on an event is not the truth. It’s just the meaning you’ve chosen.

Next, ask yourself, “How can I see this differently?”

If you’re firmly attached to your old spin on an event, this may take some persistence and creativity! Sit down with a pad and pen and brainstorm several other possible perspectives. Some viewpoints may fit and some may seem too farfetched, but stay loose with this exercise.

For example:
“Some people made it through the Great Recession pretty well. If they can do it, I can figure it out too.”

“It’s a good thing I lost all that money. It will inspire me to find a career that’s more fun and lucrative.”

“That was a great lesson in what not to do with my money! Now I have the opportunity to discover better options.”

“Fortunately, I only lost money – not my health, my family or my friends. I have what’s important and can re-build my finances.”

If you’re feeling really stuck with your old perspective, step back and view that situation those circumstance differently. The objective is not to come up with a rose-colored glasses interpretation that feels unrealistic to you. But to come up with a new interpretation that feels empowering, that helps you move forward to achieve what you desire.

“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.” Kristin Armstrong
Matt James

When done please take the time to reflect on the lesson and post a comment or question below. What insights did you gain? What questions arose for you?

Also, consider responding to the comments of others to start a dialogue.

After you have posted your comment hit the Mark Complete Button and move on to the next topic.


  1. The meaning I’ve chosen on and viewing it differently; To understand if the perspective is serving me to grow or remain stuck – very insightful exercise and the video really helped clarify understanding of this topic.

  2. Gaining a new view technique is used when client is stuck, frustrated, irritated etc.. A process of stepping back provides the client with an opportunity for a wider view, a look at a bigger picture. Seeing more inspires options for solutions to the problem.
    NLP provides a process for reframing which removes barriers old perspectives and the client gains flexibility and more choices and the ability to move forward.